Day 22 – Stop Complaining And Start To Focus On Solutions

I have some tough words to share with you today and for some of you, it will not be the easiest thing to read and come to grasp with. Believe me when I say that I’m sharing this because as a coach, it’s important to me to see you succeed and make a real positive change in your life and your level of self-confidence.

Complaining Does You No Good

I get it. It feels good to complain and let off a little steam from time to time. I’m not saying you should never complain and I’m not saying that there isn’t a time and a place when you should launch a legitimate complaint. What I’m trying to tell you is that it’s often a waste of time to whine and complain about your situation. Complaining without action and a desire to bring about change does you no good and actually hurts your self-confidence. When you focus on complaining, you’re embracing the role of a victim and that’s not a powerful role. It’s a passive, tolerating what’s dealt to you kind of role.

Here’s What I Want You To Focus On Instead

The good thing when you stop complaining is that you have a lot of time and energy for more productive things. Instead complaining, I want you to channel that energy into taking action and making a difference. For example, instead of complaining that your kids never clean their room, get in there with them and create a system. Take the time to teach them how to clean their room. Going forward, make them responsible for keeping it tidy and make sure there are consequences when it doesn’t happen.

Taking action and doing something about the circumstances or things you don’t like is very empowering. Think back on a time when you’ve taken a stand or done something to change your situation instead of complaining about it. I bet your confidence went through the roof once you started talking action.

From here on out, I want you to think of complaining as a clue to take action. When you hear yourself complain about something, or when you start thinking about complaining, stop and ask yourself what you can do about it. What can you do to change and improve the situation? Not only is it much more productive use of your time and energy than whining and complaining, it is also a great way to build your courage and self-confidence.

Don’t Miss A Thing

In case you missed one of the emails and posts, here are the tips I’ve shared so far in the Courage and Self-Confidence series:

Day 1 – Welcome to the Challenge

Day 2 – The Connection Between Self-Confidence And Courage

Day 3 – Making Courage A Habit

Day 4 – Look How Far You’ve Come

Day 5 – Scared? Do it anyway!

Day 6 – What’s Your Big Why?

Day 7 – Confidence Hack – Strike a Power Pose

Day 8 – How Goals Can Help You Boost Your Confidence

Day 9 – Write Those Goals Down and Check Them Off

Day 10 – Do More Of What Makes You Happy

Day 11 – Keep a Journal

Day 12 – We All Have Bad Days

Day 13 – Confidence Hack – Do It Anyway

Day 14 – Time To Talk About Negative Thinking and Self-Talk

Day 15 – Stop Negative Self-Talk In Its Track

Day 16 – It’s a balancing act…

Day 17 – What’s The Worst Thing That Can Happen?

Day 18 – Put Your Shoes On and Other Good Advice

Day 19 – Fake It Until You Make It

Day 20 – Let’s Talk About Random Acts of Kindness

Day 21 – Random Acts of Kindness on Steroids